Sticky Relationships:

How to Get Free


Freedom Session 9




At some point in our lives we’ve all probably experienced meeting someone and having an instant connection with that person. We knew that God had brought us together. The friendship gave you the freedom to be yourself. The Bible talks about a friendship that was so close, an instant bond was formed. It says in 1 Samuel that God knit David and Jonathan’s heart together.

Just as God uses those connections for our good, the enemy is looking for an open door in relationships to use them against us. The open door is sin. There’s another chapter in the Bible, Genesis 34, that talks about an unhealthy attraction or tie that was born out of lust that led to rape and them obsession. As a result of this crime, a devastating soul tie, murder and destruction occurred., Shechem took Dinah out of sin and then it says he was tormented by his love for her. The amplified bible says., “his soul longed for and clung to Dinah.

We’ve talked about generational curse and unforgiveness and how the enemy uses them to keep us stuck in patterns of sin and destruction. He also uses ungodly soul ties against us. In the spiritual realm, it’s like a link between two people that can be used for good or for evil, the determining factor being sin. The enemy can use the soul tie to link your areas of weakness together. He tries to use all of your strongholds against each other. If you struggle with control and manipulation, and the other person fights insecurity and intimidation, the enemy uses those things to keep you from being able to break free from the sin because your sin is tied together, you have to break the tie.

So what sins open the door to an ungodly soul tie? Any sin from gossip and sexual sins, to sins of anger, control and manipulation, lying, abuse and misuse, and list goes on.

Putting someone above God in your life by caring more about what that person thinks than about what God’s Word says, is also sin in a relationship. If you are afraid of losing a relationship and therefore compromising because of that fear, or you decide you can handle a relationship s that God has warned you to stay away from or told you to get out of, then that relationship is before God in your life.

You can have ungodly ties with a boyfriend or girlfriend, a teacher, a boss, a spouse, an abuser, or even with a friend, a sibling or parent. We can break the soul tie an set boundaries so that we don’t fall into sin patterns again and sometimes we need to set a boundary by breaking relationship with that person altogether. God will show you the right steps when you invite Him in to set things right. Are you willing?


Bible  Study:




After David had finished talking with Saul, he met Jonathan, the king’s son. There was an immediate bond between them, for Jonathan loved David. I Sam 18:1


Read Genesis 34 and the story of Shechem and Dinah


Look at the sin that occurred. Do you recognize the ungodly soul tie? This is pretty extreme but what are some ore common things that could happen when there is an ungodly soul tie?


Ungodly soul ties are formed by sin in a relationship such as:

Sexual sin







One taking advantage of another

Putting someone above God in your life

Caring more about what a person thinks than what God’s Word says

Being afraid of losing a relationship and therefore compromising because of that fear

Thinking you can handle a relationship when God is telling you to give it up

Vows and Promises



Excusing someone’s sin

Rationalizing sin in the relationship


Obviously, I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant. Gal 1:10




We use God’s mighty weapons, not worldly weapons, to knock down the strongholds of human reasoning and to destroy false arguments. 5 We destroy every proud obstacle that keeps people from knowing God. We capture their rebellious thoughts and teach them to obey Christ 2 Cor 10:4-5


How can you break a soul tie and still be in relationship with that person and set boundaries?




What circumstances do you think would require breaking the relationship, ending the relationship, In addition to the soul ties?



What about with parents or siblings, husband and wives? Talk about what it would take to break soul ties when you’re married to or related to the person?



Do you have unhealthy soul ties you need to break?



Home Work:


Spend time this week praying about soul ties in your life. Ask God to show you those you have ungodly soul ties with.


Make a list:


Pray concerning each relationship, you list.


Repent in allowing the ungodly soul tie to form. Ask God to forgive you for the sin that allowed that soul tie to exist. (Some soul ties may have nothing to do with something you’ve done, like abuse, or someone taking advantage of you.)


Break the soul ties by going through the steps below for each person on your list.



  1. Repent of the sin
  2. Forgive the person
  3. Renounce promises and agreements made with the person that are ungodly
  4. Get rid of any gifts from the person if the relationship is not a God given relationship
  5. Renounce and break the soul tie in Jesus’ name
  6. If applicable, ask God to restore the relationship to what He intended it to be.
  7. Ask God if you need to talk to the person about, He will lead you

Pray and God to show you how to change your relationship patterns so you don’t allow these ties to form again or to form with a new person.