Who I Really Am:

Steps to Forgiveness


Freedom Session 3:




Knowing who you are in Christ and who Christ is in you is the key to our freedom.  We are God’s children and have been adopted into His family with all the benefits and inheritance. Because of this, we have authority over the evil one. 

Just like a warped perception of God hinders our relationship with Him, our view of ourselves can also get in the way.  The way you see yourself is influenced by your circumstances and relationships… by the world. The world tells us that we are less than; that we are in competition with each other; that we have to take care of ourselves; that we cannot trust anyone; that we to be an army of one.

The world teaches us to let our emotions guide us. If people like us or approve, we feel good. If they don’t we feel bad. We have believed we are rejected, angry, afraid, stuck, poor, sick, wired to sin or don’t need God. We have believed we are not good enough, not clean enough, or don’t measure up enough to receive the love of God.

Many of us have insecurity from rejection when we were younger. We learn to protect and guard ourselves. We’ve made adjustments to our personality so we would be more acceptable. We moved farther and farther away from God’s design for us.  It becomes harder for us to hear Him and follow Him because we are too busy listening to others. The more we listen to the world, the more dents and dings we get. 

There’s a scripture in Matthew where two blind men asked Jesus to heal them. He asked them if they believed he could do it. They answered yes and he said, “because of your faith, it will happen.” When they went to Jesus, they asked because they believed there was a possibility that He would.  They had heard the stories about Jesus and they chose to believe they were true.

The great news is that your hope is in Jesus. He took your pride, anger and rejection on Himself and paid the ultimate price for you. He paid the debt for your sin and when you accepted Christ, you were adopted into Gods family, you took on his identity. You are His.  When you begin to understand how God created you and sees you, and what he thinks about you, you no longer believe the lies that the world has told you.  You understand that you are destined by God with a purpose and plan.  He wants to have a relationship with you and once your repent from sin, he takes those dings and dents and He heals them. He doesn’t come in and pop them out so it’s as if they never happened. He adds His truth t them and uses them to make us who He created us to be.

So let me ask you. Are you going to continue to believe the lies about who the world says you are or are you going to believe what God says? When you start to believe who God says you are, He will lead you into Freedom.


Group Study

We are spirit, soul, and body.

            “now may the God of peace make you holy in every way, and may your whole spirit and soul and body be kept blameless until our Lord Jesus Christ comes again. God will make this happen, for he who calls you is faithful.”  I Thessalonians 5:23 NLT


We all know what we can do to take care of and build are body.  We work out, we eat healthy, we rest, etc.  Your soul is your mind, will and emotions, T build up our minds, we can gain knowledge and understanding about a subject. We can learn the truth to combat lies. We can choose to act a certain way by our will and we can wither lead our emotions or be led by them.

1.      Talk woot what it means to lead your negative emotions?



2.      Can you give examples of when you wanted to do something or take offense but you chose not to?


Our spirit is sealed by the Holy Spirit

1.      When we accept Christ, our spirit is “saved or born again.”

a.       “and do not bring sorrow to God’s Holy Spirit by the way you live. Remember, he has identified you as his own, guaranteeing that you will be saved on the day of redemption.” Ephesians 4:30

b.      “For his Spirit joins with our spirit to affirm that we God’s children. And since we are his children, we are his heirs. In fact, together with Christ we are heirs of God’s glory. But if we are to share his glory, we must also share his suffering.” Romans 8:16-17

                                                                          i.      What does it mean to be an heir?


                                                                        ii.      What does it mean to be a co-heir with Christ?






2.      Our soul and body are weak

a.       And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice—the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him. 2 Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.

                                                                          i.      What is Paul telling us to do about this new life?

b.      The truth is our Father in Heaven waits for us to come to Him s He can tell us what He thinks of us. He created us and knows us. He knows that the only hope for us is to have faith in Him.

                                                                          i.      Share some of the truth God has shown you about who you are in Christ?

You are Forgiven

1.      “Then if my people who are called by my name will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sins and restore their land”. 2 Chronicles 7:14



Because we are forgiven, we are free to forgive

1.      Read Matthew 18:21-35

2.      T forgive is to pardon an offense or an offender. The enemy keeps us in bondage when we hold a grudge against those who have hurt us or affected us negatively.  We may harbor bitterness, anger, resentment or other unwelcome emotions.

a.       Read: Mark 11:25, Ephesians 1:7, Luke 6:37,

So, to move forward in our freedom, we must forgive.


Prayer: Ask God who you need to forgive. Don’t debate it with the Holy Spirit, just jt down the names as they come. You may even feel like you need to forgive God, many of us do. (You wil come to know Him and will realize that is not true but for now as you feel the need, extend that forgiveness. It’s okay, He’s been waiting for you).